Have you noticed, that our times are well-known for sarcasm, criticism and all kind of negativity? How do you feel about that? Do you also convey these kinds of thoughts, news, actions? Do you, really, but I mean really, deep in you, feel good with that? Doing that? Is this of any benefit for you? Why this is not worth it? How can you transform this? Let us see in the following material.
What does criticism do to you?
How often do you judge others? How often do you make fun of others or criticise them? How do you feel in such moments? Is this kind of action, make you feel good? Is it giving you anything positive? Is it boosting your wellbeing? Really? Is your sarcastic comment makes you happier? Feeling better? For how long? For how long, has this kind of behaviour improved the way you are feeling? Is it really improving? Check that asking yourself, asking your heart?
It is really hard for me to believe, that the activities mentioned above, could make you, or anyone else, feel better. Well, it might feel like that for a while. As acting this way, you are feeding your ego. The part of you that, surely you need. But also you need to be careful, to not have it too big. As at this moment, when it overgrows, it will cause you more trouble, than bringing you benefits. And it is quite easy to do so. But this is a topic for itself.
Does the whole complaining about something or someone, criticising it, makes you feel right? I can bet, that in a long run, it will not suit you. First of all, it will make you feel good for a few moments. When you feed your ego showing your “superiority” over someone. Yet, this feeling passes away quite fast and you start to search for another victim of your “sharp” tongue. Though, please stop at this moment and feel in yourself, if this is really something, that makes you happy and in love with life. Look deep in you. Deep in your heart.
Why is criticism not worth a penny?
Do you like to feel bad? Is it worth it to feel bad? To be negative? To criticising? What do you think? Look closely at your real feelings and emotions, at a moment when you criticise something or someone. The negative emotions, that accompany this action, will give you a clear sign, that something is wrong. That doing this you just bring more of the negativity into the world and your life. Is this something you desire? Do you like to have more bad things in your life? Bad events, situations that go wrong, people that are destructive and evil?
Think about that, this way. Just imagine this kind of situation. Would you like someone to bring you, to your home, to your garden, to your place, a whole truckload of trashes? How would you feel at such a moment? Would you do this to yourself? Would you go and bring yourself a truck full of trashes and drop them at your place? Now, understand that criticising, sharing negativity is exactly this. By acting this way you are bringing this to your life. To your space. As everything you are sending into the world, is coming back to you, most of the time doubled.
So, now, do you still think that being a great critic, being sarcastic, spreading negative comments here and there, is good? Do you still want to bring, by the law of reflection, whole this to your life? Is this something you wish for? At times you may feel as though you have to be critical, negative, otherwise, no one will respect you and you may even be exposed to mockery. So you might think, that to avoid this, to protect yourself you need to be the first who do this. Is it really like that? Do you really need to be the one who is leading in this?
How can you stop being a critic?
This is quite an interesting question. And surely there are many things that can be dug up in books, articles, and all over the internet. Surely you have a few ideas for yourself. If you would like to share them with me, I will be more than happy to read them. And for this purpose, there is a comment section below. So feel free to use it.
But what can you do? First of all, you need to decide that you want to stop. And then the whole fun begins. I know, as I was many times told to be very sarcastic years back. So when I understand that this is not good for me and this is not something I want to continue doing, I made a decision to stop. Then, I was many times tempted to just drop that sarcastic bomb at someone. This is just a normal thing. A life test, to examine how serious you are, about your decision.
So, what I have done, I started to watch carefully my feelings and first reactions to someone’s actions and sayings. Then I carefully consider how I want to respond as the new me. It takes me some time. But believe me, it is not so hard as it might sound. It is actually pretty easy. So, just make the decision if you want to stop bringing negativity to your life. Then watch your feelings before you act or say something. If needed make adjustments to your reactions and feel free, happy and appreciate positivity that will come to your life.
Shortly we talk, what being critical does to you and why you might not want it anymore in your life. You know what can you do to transform your criticism, sarcasm and negativity into admiration, compliments, positivity.
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